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See Me Naked: Stories of Sexual Exile in American Christianity

Paperback |English |0807004685 | 9780807004685

See Me Naked: Stories of Sexual Exile in American Christianity

Paperback |English |0807004685 | 9780807004685
Overview
"A fascinating, troubling, and finally heartening book that subtly shows ways that Christians might reconcile their bodies with their devotion to God. Highly recommended for individual Christians but also for pastors and church groups."--Library Journal, starred reviewStories of sexual scandals in churches throughout the nation have been downright routine in recent years, suggesting to many Americans that a deeply rooted problem plagues American Christianity--and prompting some to abandon their congregations altogether. In See Me Naked, Amy Frykholm takes us beyond simple indictments of, or blind allegiance to, Christian cultures to explore the complex, intimate intersection of sexuality and spirituality as it affects the lives of ordinary Christians. Recounting with care and nuance the life histories of nine American Protestants, Frykholm shows us the harm done by the rules-based sexual ethic now dominant, which alternately denies and romanticizes sexuality. But she also points to how American Christians might otherwise access their spiritual tradition to heal the divide between religion and sexuality. One story examines the intricate relationship between a man's religious faith and his sexual addiction. In another, a man defines religion as a wall that kept him from the discovery that he was gay. One young woman uses sex to defy her devout parents, while another seeks to transcend her body by going without food. Nearly everyone interviewed in See Me Naked remains a Christian, with some further on their journey than others. Yet each of them is working to understand the connection between their desires and their faith. Ultimately, their stories--stories of pain and violence, perseverance and courage--attest to the healing power of struggling through the wild and uncertain experiences of life. See Me Naked explores the many ways that people work to recover from harmful beliefs and restores the notion that one of the key insights of Christianity is that the body, with all its struggles, pains, and difficulties, is a vehicle of the holy and can lead us into a more full relationship with God.
ISBN: 0807004685
ISBN13: 9780807004685
Author: Amy Frykholm
Publisher: Beacon Press
Format: Paperback
PublicationDate: 2012-11-13
Language: English
Edition: Reprint
PageCount: 200
Dimensions: 5.28 x 0.58 x 8.28 inches
Weight: 8.8 ounces
"A fascinating, troubling, and finally heartening book that subtly shows ways that Christians might reconcile their bodies with their devotion to God. Highly recommended for individual Christians but also for pastors and church groups."--Library Journal, starred reviewStories of sexual scandals in churches throughout the nation have been downright routine in recent years, suggesting to many Americans that a deeply rooted problem plagues American Christianity--and prompting some to abandon their congregations altogether. In See Me Naked, Amy Frykholm takes us beyond simple indictments of, or blind allegiance to, Christian cultures to explore the complex, intimate intersection of sexuality and spirituality as it affects the lives of ordinary Christians. Recounting with care and nuance the life histories of nine American Protestants, Frykholm shows us the harm done by the rules-based sexual ethic now dominant, which alternately denies and romanticizes sexuality. But she also points to how American Christians might otherwise access their spiritual tradition to heal the divide between religion and sexuality. One story examines the intricate relationship between a man's religious faith and his sexual addiction. In another, a man defines religion as a wall that kept him from the discovery that he was gay. One young woman uses sex to defy her devout parents, while another seeks to transcend her body by going without food. Nearly everyone interviewed in See Me Naked remains a Christian, with some further on their journey than others. Yet each of them is working to understand the connection between their desires and their faith. Ultimately, their stories--stories of pain and violence, perseverance and courage--attest to the healing power of struggling through the wild and uncertain experiences of life. See Me Naked explores the many ways that people work to recover from harmful beliefs and restores the notion that one of the key insights of Christianity is that the body, with all its struggles, pains, and difficulties, is a vehicle of the holy and can lead us into a more full relationship with God.
Editorial Reviews


"An essential book [that] will perhaps begin the national conversation that we deserve."--Paul Landerman,
Edge
"Frykholm and the brave souls she interviews will challenge your understanding of grace."--David K. Wheeler,
Burnside Writers Collective




"The most redemptive book I've ever read."--Dave, Elliot Bay Bookstore
"A culturally significant collection that explores the challenges of reconciling pleasure with piety."--
Kirkus


"A Christian herself, Frykholm does not offer this book as a means to discourage people from the religion. Rather, she holds up these wounded but not lost souls to critique dogmatic practices that, in disdaining the body, disdain the spirit."--Crystal K. Wiebe,
Bitch




"A fascinating, troubling, and finally heartening book that subtly shows ways that Christians might reconcile their bodies with their devotion to God. Highly recommended for individual Christians but also for pastors and church groups."
--
Library Journal, starred review
"Amy Frykholm has gathered the intimate stories of people of faith in search of wholeness. These tender tales both challenge and encourage the church to listen to voices it might not hear otherwise. When it comes to integrating mind, body and spirit, the Church can serve as curse or blessing. These searingly honest stories compel us to strive for the latter."--The Rev. Lillian Daniel, author of
Tell it Like it is: Recovering the Practice of Testimony
"This is a compelling book that traverses the teeming intersection of sexuality and faith in the life of nine individuals. They are stories of very ordinary people's struggles to live as whole beings. Their stories are rendered with such compassion and insight, however, that the result is anything but ordinary. The reader is left with the conviction that the church must, and the hope that it will, minister to people in the fullness of their lives."--The Rev. Martin B. Copenhaver, author of
To Begin at the Beginning
"American Christianity is facing a crisis: our easy answers about life after death have left so many with little hope for life in their bodies here and now. Amy Frykholm chronicles this crisis in real time, inviting us to experience the pain of sisters and brothers living in exile from their flesh. But she also proclaims a gentle word of hope: 'look again at our tradition, ' she seems to whisper. 'Christ is risen in a body with feet that touch the ground.-Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove, author of
The Wisdom of Stability: Rooting Faith in a Mobile Culture
"With singular gentleness and a palpable respect for those whose stories she is telling, Amy Frykholm lays bare whole areas of human sexual formation that I had never seen before, much less considered....This is an important book."--Phyllis Tickle, author of
The Great Emergence: How Christianity Is Changing and Why
"These disarmingly honest life stories of people navigating the 'tenacious strangeness' of their sexual and spiritual lives will stay with you long after you finish this book. So will the gracious, honoring, and insightful ways Frykholm tells and interprets them. It should be on every Protestant pastor's coffee table."--Timothy Beal, author of
The Rise and Fall of the Bible: The Unexpected History of an Accidental Book


Amy Frykholm is author of
Rapture Culture: Left Behind in Evangelical America and
Julian of Norwich: A Contemplative Biography. She works as a correspondent for the
Christian Century and lives in Colorado.

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Overview
"A fascinating, troubling, and finally heartening book that subtly shows ways that Christians might reconcile their bodies with their devotion to God. Highly recommended for individual Christians but also for pastors and church groups."--Library Journal, starred reviewStories of sexual scandals in churches throughout the nation have been downright routine in recent years, suggesting to many Americans that a deeply rooted problem plagues American Christianity--and prompting some to abandon their congregations altogether. In See Me Naked, Amy Frykholm takes us beyond simple indictments of, or blind allegiance to, Christian cultures to explore the complex, intimate intersection of sexuality and spirituality as it affects the lives of ordinary Christians. Recounting with care and nuance the life histories of nine American Protestants, Frykholm shows us the harm done by the rules-based sexual ethic now dominant, which alternately denies and romanticizes sexuality. But she also points to how American Christians might otherwise access their spiritual tradition to heal the divide between religion and sexuality. One story examines the intricate relationship between a man's religious faith and his sexual addiction. In another, a man defines religion as a wall that kept him from the discovery that he was gay. One young woman uses sex to defy her devout parents, while another seeks to transcend her body by going without food. Nearly everyone interviewed in See Me Naked remains a Christian, with some further on their journey than others. Yet each of them is working to understand the connection between their desires and their faith. Ultimately, their stories--stories of pain and violence, perseverance and courage--attest to the healing power of struggling through the wild and uncertain experiences of life. See Me Naked explores the many ways that people work to recover from harmful beliefs and restores the notion that one of the key insights of Christianity is that the body, with all its struggles, pains, and difficulties, is a vehicle of the holy and can lead us into a more full relationship with God.
ISBN: 0807004685
ISBN13: 9780807004685
Author: Amy Frykholm
Publisher: Beacon Press
Format: Paperback
PublicationDate: 2012-11-13
Language: English
Edition: Reprint
PageCount: 200
Dimensions: 5.28 x 0.58 x 8.28 inches
Weight: 8.8 ounces
"A fascinating, troubling, and finally heartening book that subtly shows ways that Christians might reconcile their bodies with their devotion to God. Highly recommended for individual Christians but also for pastors and church groups."--Library Journal, starred reviewStories of sexual scandals in churches throughout the nation have been downright routine in recent years, suggesting to many Americans that a deeply rooted problem plagues American Christianity--and prompting some to abandon their congregations altogether. In See Me Naked, Amy Frykholm takes us beyond simple indictments of, or blind allegiance to, Christian cultures to explore the complex, intimate intersection of sexuality and spirituality as it affects the lives of ordinary Christians. Recounting with care and nuance the life histories of nine American Protestants, Frykholm shows us the harm done by the rules-based sexual ethic now dominant, which alternately denies and romanticizes sexuality. But she also points to how American Christians might otherwise access their spiritual tradition to heal the divide between religion and sexuality. One story examines the intricate relationship between a man's religious faith and his sexual addiction. In another, a man defines religion as a wall that kept him from the discovery that he was gay. One young woman uses sex to defy her devout parents, while another seeks to transcend her body by going without food. Nearly everyone interviewed in See Me Naked remains a Christian, with some further on their journey than others. Yet each of them is working to understand the connection between their desires and their faith. Ultimately, their stories--stories of pain and violence, perseverance and courage--attest to the healing power of struggling through the wild and uncertain experiences of life. See Me Naked explores the many ways that people work to recover from harmful beliefs and restores the notion that one of the key insights of Christianity is that the body, with all its struggles, pains, and difficulties, is a vehicle of the holy and can lead us into a more full relationship with God.
Editorial Reviews


"An essential book [that] will perhaps begin the national conversation that we deserve."--Paul Landerman,
Edge
"Frykholm and the brave souls she interviews will challenge your understanding of grace."--David K. Wheeler,
Burnside Writers Collective




"The most redemptive book I've ever read."--Dave, Elliot Bay Bookstore
"A culturally significant collection that explores the challenges of reconciling pleasure with piety."--
Kirkus


"A Christian herself, Frykholm does not offer this book as a means to discourage people from the religion. Rather, she holds up these wounded but not lost souls to critique dogmatic practices that, in disdaining the body, disdain the spirit."--Crystal K. Wiebe,
Bitch




"A fascinating, troubling, and finally heartening book that subtly shows ways that Christians might reconcile their bodies with their devotion to God. Highly recommended for individual Christians but also for pastors and church groups."
--
Library Journal, starred review
"Amy Frykholm has gathered the intimate stories of people of faith in search of wholeness. These tender tales both challenge and encourage the church to listen to voices it might not hear otherwise. When it comes to integrating mind, body and spirit, the Church can serve as curse or blessing. These searingly honest stories compel us to strive for the latter."--The Rev. Lillian Daniel, author of
Tell it Like it is: Recovering the Practice of Testimony
"This is a compelling book that traverses the teeming intersection of sexuality and faith in the life of nine individuals. They are stories of very ordinary people's struggles to live as whole beings. Their stories are rendered with such compassion and insight, however, that the result is anything but ordinary. The reader is left with the conviction that the church must, and the hope that it will, minister to people in the fullness of their lives."--The Rev. Martin B. Copenhaver, author of
To Begin at the Beginning
"American Christianity is facing a crisis: our easy answers about life after death have left so many with little hope for life in their bodies here and now. Amy Frykholm chronicles this crisis in real time, inviting us to experience the pain of sisters and brothers living in exile from their flesh. But she also proclaims a gentle word of hope: 'look again at our tradition, ' she seems to whisper. 'Christ is risen in a body with feet that touch the ground.-Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove, author of
The Wisdom of Stability: Rooting Faith in a Mobile Culture
"With singular gentleness and a palpable respect for those whose stories she is telling, Amy Frykholm lays bare whole areas of human sexual formation that I had never seen before, much less considered....This is an important book."--Phyllis Tickle, author of
The Great Emergence: How Christianity Is Changing and Why
"These disarmingly honest life stories of people navigating the 'tenacious strangeness' of their sexual and spiritual lives will stay with you long after you finish this book. So will the gracious, honoring, and insightful ways Frykholm tells and interprets them. It should be on every Protestant pastor's coffee table."--Timothy Beal, author of
The Rise and Fall of the Bible: The Unexpected History of an Accidental Book


Amy Frykholm is author of
Rapture Culture: Left Behind in Evangelical America and
Julian of Norwich: A Contemplative Biography. She works as a correspondent for the
Christian Century and lives in Colorado.

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Damaged Parcel
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To be eligible for a return, your item must be unused and in the same condition that you received it. It must also be in the original packaging.

Several types of goods are exempt from being returned. Perishable goods such as food, flowers, newspapers or magazines cannot be returned. We also do not accept products that are intimate or sanitary goods, hazardous materials, or flammable liquids or gases.

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  • Gift cards
  • Downloadable software products
  • Some health and personal care items

To complete your return, we require a tracking number, which shows the items which you already returned to us.
There are certain situations where only partial refunds are granted (if applicable)

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  • CD, DVD, VHS tape, software, video game, cassette tape, or vinyl record that has been opened
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